家家有本难念的经

what does it mean to have a happy family?what does it mean to be harmonious (as the old saying goes)?is it a family that never quarrels?is it one in which everyone is understanding and forgiving?or is it one that knows how to settle disputes and conflicts in a cool-headed, win-win manner?

disagreements are bound to happen when you live your lives together, when life-threads getting so entangled and so inseparable.many emotionally-charged issues would arise and it's improbable for all involved to be level-headed under such circumstances.but what happened to good'o education and logical/rationale reasoning?and in education, we're not talking about a degree or any form of professional certification but the very basic things like principle, values...or in other words, civility...or in Chinese, 家教

there's no chance for a good intelligent conversation/discussion of any issue when the very mention of it get you in tears and all fired-up.nor is the best possible analysis/solution when you're so stubborn with your judgementon issues or particular persons.pouty face, rolling tears and screeching screams don't help...

solutions solutions solutions...where art thou?